Josie my eyes filled up when I read your very moving first post.
The response from your friends on here should be some comfort.
As for the vultures there is a saying round here 'Where there's a will there's a family.
There will always be some unpleasantness at times like this. So called 'family' you don't see from one year to the next,all of a sudden remember where you live. Just console yourself with the times you had together and be glad to see the back of them.
______________________________________________________________ On lifes highway,when things seem to be coming your way,you are probably in the wrong lane!
I really just do not know what to say except, so sorry.
Trevor
______________________________________________________________ God put me on this earth to achieve a certain number of things. Right now I am so far behind I will never die.
There are so many broken thoughts going round in my mind and the vultures have gathered making things even harder to bear.
Josie
some people have no morality. When they dont leave a widow alone, then they become worthless individuals to be abhored.
Josie, theres nothing, and no words which will help greatly, but, there are memories which are more precious than any material object yet made; its memories such as those you made with your man that will see you through.
Up until the Vultures post, I saw no point in joining with this thread, as my sentiments were made by dozens of others, but, theres a limit.
Josie, I have just returned to this forum after some time away, following a similar expience to yours. I could not even think what I may do without my right arm. My Lesley died in my arms on Oct 1st, totaly unexpectedly.
My friends from around the world, literally, sent emails and cards in enormous numbers, and gave great comfort in their words of sympathy, but all had me in tears for most of the time I was reading them.
I also posted here, to get it off my chest (there nothing like talking it out ) and getting some thoghts about what I was to now do with the new Rapido we only bought at Easter . I decided to keep it and use it.
I am now off on a trip to catch up absent friends in derbys & N Yorks, to ensure I have the enthusiasm and support from those friends, to make it more bearable to live life anew, with major changes to deal with, but knowing there are myriads of friends out there to help, some you have never met but all waiting to greet you. Take care, as we care. Peter
Hello and morning..
Mum and I have managed to come down with a cold, the first one for many a year. Not knowing how things will pan out Ive not had the heating on but gave in last night! With everything frozen while the vultures contest the will, I thought it prudent to reign in all spending. No access to bank accounts etc.
I cant understand how when I look out the window first thing everything is just the same, same garden, same hedge and road but when I turn and look inside everything is different. Its so strange where once everything I done was with thought to what Neil or Neil and I wanted and would do through out the day, the getting up the making of breakfast together, the long chats about the house, the day, the dogs, the goodbyes then the hellos. Trying to think without thinking of us is so strange. Its just me. Oh I will just stop there!!
I nee to ask some motorhome questions so I will go and look for the find the right places to ask them
It's good to see you join us again. I look forward to reading your posts in other sections of MHF. Please remember, if you don't know the answer, then it's not a silly question.
Take care,
Jock.
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... Trying to think without thinking of us is so strange.
It's strange, uncomfortable and uncharted territory, it's a long road but every step takes you forward... underpinned by the warm and positive memories of 'us' that guide you through.
josieb wrote:
Its just me.
Yes, it's just you working your own way through a very difficult time but... you are not alone
______________________________________________________________ graham
I didn't have a very good day yesterday, for some unknown reason I cried nearly all day. I did manage to walk the dogs for a short time but that didn't seem to help. The dogs have been ever so good and not pestered for their usual walks. Maybe the cold is not helping and as it is dark by 4-30 makes for a long night. Not a great tv watcher at the moment. Have got to trek to the solicitor today. At least in the west our weather is not as bad as some places.
Josie, you are never going to be without those memories of days now past. I also sit here some days, and have those little reminders of what WE would have been doing together. Then emotion breaks through so I have a quiet moment of reflection, with perhaps a tear or three.
However, life must go on. Even though there is now silence in the house, especially when on this PC, the presence of another is there all the time, with little reminders everywhere you look.
I have just retruned from 3 nights away, stopping in three locations to visit friends from way back, using the 'van, as no room in the Inns.!
Van was plastered with mud from country lanes of Derbyshire and Yorkshire. Found a hand wash at side of A1 who did great job for £15 !
Then had all the unpacking to go through at home, like WE used to do, but takes longer. Now is not the best time to take to the road, if you were thinking of it Josie, but friends will be there for your benefit and light relief, when you allow them to be comforters.
The next thing you and I have to plan is Christmas. WE always chased the sun, somewhere in the world. Were thinking of Cyprus. Now.
Dunno, too many ionvites to accept them all, but many will have to be dissapointed I cannot come to them.
Take care and keep chatting. Peter
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