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The passing of my life partner of 25 yrs, Lesley Kennedy, only 65rs old, on Oct 1st, has left me in a vacuum and all alone.
We purchased first m/home 5 yrs ago, and made good use of it around various parts of Europe, usually towing a big trailer with m/bike inside.
This year saw us buy a brand new Rapido with island bed. Better all round for the two of us.
Now this has happened.
Life will go on, but enjoyment now limited and ambitions restricted.
Must consider if I have the fortitude to want to use Rapido, or perhaps sell
Sorry to hear that Lesley has left the world behind. You have, I am sure some fantastic memories of her but yes you are right your life will go on, just as she would have wanted it to.
Your mind is going around in circles a the moment and it is not a good time to make any major changes so do not try to. Just sit and remember the great times you have had and the great times you will have with Lesley watching over you. You are not alone
I understand the emptiness & sense of fracture from the world that a sudden loss can bring. You have my deepest sympathy, Pete on the loss of Lesley.
As Stew says, it's too early for big decisions but know that you're never alone & in time you'll come to the decision that's right for you.
One thing is for sure, none of us want our partner to stop enjoying life when we're no longer around.
Thinking of you,
Just to add our greatest sympathy to you , none of us can imagine what it is like to loose your best friend unless it has happened to you.
We all say carry on as Lesley would have wanted to but must admit that can't be easy, waiting before big decision making is a good idea, you know in your heart you will carry on its just waiting to see how, and that will come in time.
"I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished memory of the loved and lost…” - Abraham Lincoln
My wife died in August after 42 years together... although it doesn't help that much but I'd suggest googling 'bereavement' ...at least you'll have some idea of what's happening in your head. Leave major decisions for at least 6 months.
Pushed meself to use the motorhome... one night only; had to resist the temptation to pack up and go home... so many memories. We used to go to France several times a year so I booked the tunnel and went over... the second one night only... just as bad as the first time I did feel some sense of achievement though...
Some basics: although there'll be times when you just don't want to do anything, push yourself gently forward. Get back into your usual routine for meals. Forget tissues, a small hand towel works for me. Find something to do that gets you out of the house and into others' company, it's all too easy to become isolated.
You'll find that everyone wants to help but it's a wilderness that you have to navigate yourself out of... it's a great comfort that people do want to help even if there's little they can do.
I'd love to say it gets better but it hasn't so far... there's always the hope that it will ease a little as the days go by. Be good to yourself.
So sorry for the sad loss of Lesley. I can understand you feeling a huge void in your life. I too would advise to leave major decisions aone for a while as it must be hugely difficult even living from day to day at the moment never mind making big choices.
Please accept my sincere condolences for your losses Pete and Graham. Am thinking of you both.
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For "Our Mavis."
I did feel some sense of achievement though...
