In our scenario mum had organised the fitting herself and had the lessons on how to use it. I have my suspicion that she never sat on it in anger. When the paramedics came and wanted to transport her she was not compos mentis enough to help us. We could not figure it out quickly and neither could they. She was "air lifted" down the stairs in the end.
That's 1 week exactly since his incident and release. He is waiting on blood test results and then they will let him go. We spent the day at his place: I fitted a shower seat and a grab rail, for good measure. Then I joined Mrs GMJ in cleaning the kitchen. We managed around half of it until we ran out of time. It was minging...
So we are back at Cirencester C&MC site awaiting a call to drive back to Cheltenham. We'll settle him in tonight and then return tomorrow morning to see him plus I'll go to Morrisons to do his fortnightly shop for him. He keeps his receipts so we know exactly what he buys every 2 weeks!
I git the hospital to do a stairs test on him to check that he could manage stairs...which he passed with flying colours. The stair lift is still going in on Friday though!
I'm sure you're both exhausted Graham - it's the emotional strain as well as the physical. Hopefully FIL will settle well when he gets home and all the prep you've done will give you more peace of mind.
FiL was release at around 6.30 last night so we drove over and picked him up. During my visit to him earlier that day I had had a chat with him about outlook and perspective and the wake up call that this should have given him regarding his intransigence (I didn't use that word!!). Tbf then when we got him home he put his alarm call pendant straight on (I'd mentioned it earlier) and when we called his brother up he admitted on the phone that he had agreed to the stair lift too.
Anyway he seemed quite impressed with the smell of 'clean' in his house and we unpacked his hospital stuff and settled him in with a can of John Smiths. When we left him he was standing on his doorstep looking at his front garden.
He'll probably get a bit ornery today as our son is visiting first thing on his way to work; we are then there to sort his shopping and car insurance out; and Mrs GMJ's eldest son will visit this afternoon. I expect his next door neighbours will want a catch up too!..
...and all he will want to do is watch the snooker on TV!
NB: I mentioned his brother. He is a really fit 80 year old who cycles everywhere but his house is worse than the FiL's. We describe it as a throw back to the 1930's as he has no hot running water and no inside toilet. And, as with the FiL, we cannot get him to change things either...it must be a genetic thing I guess!
We popped over yesterday morning to find him up and about and very pleased with what we had done for him. Our lad popped in to see him en route to work and stayed and had a cup of tea with him. He was still trying to find things we had tidied up and had started to spread himself again with all his junk, papers, notes etc...but still, at least they are now spread on clean surfaces!
I went and did his shopping for him at Morrison's then taped down the threshold on his bedroom carpet which was coming adrift and was a trip hazard. I then managed to fix his gas fire as the starter knob had come loose. It transpired that it had thrown a retainer clip which I managed to get back on, so he was pleased. It also saved him £17 on buying a new piece for it too!
Today we'll finish off cleaning the kitchen; get his car insurance sorted; and have the stairlift installed. We will also have a conversation with him about getting a cleaner in and also the internet! I doubt either will work but it's best to strike whilst the iron is hot.
We wont see him until Monday now when the list will be
- Sorting out his car insurance
- Seeing which insurance to claim off for the demolished fence (car or house)
- Talk with him about a cleaner (once a fortnight for 2-3 hours should suffice)
- Talk with him about getting wifi in his house so his grandchildren can comes and stay occasionally and can work from there
- Talk with him about applying for a blue badge
It'll all rest on whether he has had a proper wake up call after his recent incident or whether he is just paying us lip service and will be back to his old ways again.
- No problem with me sorting out the car insurance for him and it's now underway.
- No problem with my applying for a Blue Badge for him so the application is now in.
- I ordered a new vacuum cleaner for him as by his own volition his c.1950's era original Hoover has had it!
- He is using the stair lift all the time and admits that it is good.
- He used his shower seat today to have a sponge bath and found it and the handrail useful.
After this it went downhill...
- A definite NO to the cleaner even though its a lady who lives 5 doors down whom he knows. "I don't want anyone poking around in 'ere...". I did explain that we would not be able to come up every few weeks and clean for him and it would be very disappointing if it all got dirty again after all the graft put in to making it clean. Hopefully he'll cogitate on that.
- A definite NO to the internet being put in despite my assuring him that it would not affect his life one iota and would cost very little once I had sorted BT out (whom I suspect have been ripping him off for years) AND that he wouldn't have to have anyone in to set it up AND that it would mean his grand kids could come and stay with him as they could work from there.
We are away from here tomorrow and wont see him now until June. We will organise his grandchildren to take turns sorting his food shopping until we know what's happening with his car.
Maybe if he likes TV, you could tell him about all the movies and other stuff he could watch on TV (Netflix, Prime, Youtube etc, Porn ) if he had the internet, maybe he's a bit frightened of it, many old folk are, he doesn't have to have a puter, it's all done on a remote.
I wonder if the grandkids would have more success? Little hints like "I can't come today with your shopping because you have no internet and I need it". I know it is flimsy but often the elderly align with the youngsters
Good idea Pat and has been tried. He won't budge at the moment regardless of who hints. The grandchildren have organised it and Mrs GMJ's eldest son is taking him shopping next week. He is an absolute tool so I can't see that going too well.
In other news the insurance company have said that they will repair his car so I'm just waiting on them providing details of who will be doing it and when they will be collecting it. The FiL has also organised that one of his other cars (he has 3!!) will be going into a garage to have a new clutch fitted...which tbh probably costs more than the car is worth but the FiL likes having a spare usable car??!!
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