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If you are also single and alone for the holidays, you are definitely not alone! There are many good reasons for this, divorce and separation being first and foremost.

Is there any merit in having a section in the "options" column on the left to include "singles "

I am fortunate enough to have a partner, I have often wondered how much more difficult or easier is is for the single minded, or single parent to cope compared to us lot.

Perhaps the "singles" could have their own community on this site.
 

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I'm divorced :D but often take a friend or two along on my trips so I'm rarely travelling any distances alone. The few times I have though, I must admit, I felt that other couples treated me slightly differently. Now this is a sweeping generalisation but...I do think that a single female (with two dogs) is treated differently. People are more reluctant to come and chat. I've pulled up on a site and parked up between two motorhomes and sat outside while either side were chatting to eachother across me about aerials. That was probably the exception and perhaps I'm just a little shy but there is definately something! I don't particularly want to see a seperate 'bit' for us single saddo's :wink: I just want to be treated like a whole person rather than half of a double unit.
 

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You weren't the saddo, the 2 idiots talking across you warrant that description! :evil:
Still, look on the bright side did you realy want to get to know someone like that? 8O
I surprised that having two dogs doesn't open up conversations? or do they frighten people off? hound of the beskervilles style :D
I agree with your comment about a separate bit tho. It's good to have a web site for motorhomes as opposed to caravans etc but I think that should be enough differentiation - otherwise it gets a bit cliquey, don't you think?
 

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banjo said:
I do think that a single female (with two dogs) is treated differently.
I wonder whether the 'single' is the key or the 'single female'. (It could be the dogs I suppose if it was 2 Dobermans :) )

Here are 2 question for couples on the forum.
1. Would you chat to a single female as easily as a single male.
2. As a wife/partner would you be as happy for your male partner to chat alone to a single female as you would to a single male? (We are talking on site here! :) )

Gillian
 

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Excellent question Gillian.
The dogs are very friendly and well behaved and yes, other dog owners do chat. To be honest, I'm quite happy with my own company most of the time but the problems arise when -

Really fancying a pint (in a ladies glass :wink: ) but don't want to go into a pub on my own.

Getting served in a crowded bar

Reversing into a tight spot without a Banksman

Getting my bike off the bike rack (I'm vertically challenged) without the handlebars smashing my teeth.

Hanging onto the dogs when one of them has spotted a rabbit while I'm searching for the keys to lock the door.

That's about it!
 

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Although I'm a single parent (widowed) I don't tend to think of myself as a lone motorcaravanner because I've always got my children with me (& often someone else's as well) plus the dog(s).

I don't think we need or want a separate section - one forum I used to use till it closed had a separate bit for "touring alone" but it wasn't well used.

I have noticed that some ladies can be a bit possessive with their other halves but there are plenty about who can be just as friendly as their menfolk providing that I give them as much attention.

Certainly the children & the dog make it easier to get to know people. I don't often go out without knowing that there will be some people that I know already there when I arive. That is why I mostly use rallies. Even if I don't know anyone to start with it is easier to socialise at a rally than on a site full of strangers.
 

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Its not just you ladies who have a problem, I think we would e more inclined to chat to a single female rather than a single male although this is just a hunch.

Having been single often (havent we all?) I hate going into a pub on my own.

I should imagine its like going on holiday on your own, booking a single room etc, but the best way to gather together is to have everyone on an equal level. No discrimination lets share the the common interest.

We are all campervanners - thats it, Welcome to the family. :3some:
 

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You may well be joking about the friendlyness in Wrecsam (I think I have spelt that correctly-in Welsh) But I can confirm that is also our experience in N.Wales, you are a friendly lot.

Last night a friend, recently widdowed was talking about this issue, and the other thing that cropped up was the "allocation of jobs" startiing a new routine with jobs previously done by the missing partner
 

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It's very thoughtful of you to spell Wrecsam the way you did, puts me to shame of course as I spelt it in English! I am also ashamed to say that Welsh was my first language but I would now struggle to hold a conversation in my mother tongue.
I believe that wherever you go there are friendly people and those not quite so friendly. I spent many years working in Warrington and surrounding areas and was always impressed by how down to earth and easy going everyone seemed to be. Warrington has changed alot since then in terms of its size - this was before all of Old Hall, Callands and Birchwood was developed so perhaps things are different now.
It must be very hard to get used to living without a partner (I was actually glad to see the back of mine!!!) and doing some jobs alone is no fun. I hope your friend can get into the routine and enjoy her trips away.
 

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OK its changed for 1 week then its going back - Im not actually Welsh - Orig. from Autostratus Gillian country
 

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I came originally from the East Riding of Yorkshire (and please don't anyone tell me that I'm from North Humberside).

Gillian
 

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OK no beating about the bush and getting straight to the point - I'm from Leicester.

What was this thread about??
 

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all the best most rememberable conversations wander off the point occasionally - well in my case frequently.
i'm originally from County Durham - from an infamous little town, that keeps on getting itself into the news! :oops: :?
but thinking of moving to York or thereabouts, particularly like Pocklington - that's the East Riding, and used to spend my hols in Selby as a kid. - am I close Gillian :?:
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You sure are, twooks.
Born in Hull (sorry, Kingston upon Hull) and also lived and worked in Leeds.
I remember the sauce factory in Selby very well and frequently crossing the toll bridge. Now_there_was a license to print money if ever I saw one.
Then after moving to more southerly sunny climes (Doncaster) the journey across the old Humber swing bridge and through Pocklington (well Market Weighton) and Driffield to Scarborough.

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autostratus said:
I came originally from the East Riding of Yorkshire (and please don't anyone tell me that I'm from North Humberside).

Gillian
Ear, East riding? Aint dat North Humberside?

Sorry, just couldn't resist that. :lol:
(red rags an all that)
 

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these Southerners get everywhere [-o<

as for the Selby toll bridge, my dad insisted on getting a receipt once! took them 5 minutes to find the book :!:

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