What are you getting up to today?

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Pudsey_Bear

Discussion Starter · Mar 25, 2021

I've got to try to remember to make a dentists appointment before my pension credits stop.

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patp

· #7,921 · 2 mo ago

I "think" that the lady that has been allocated to my case is afraid of the people at the next level up. All she keeps repeating is that "we are evidence based" over and over again. I imagine that she has been taken to task over just doing the admin and not making sure that the consumer has a valid case. I have just emailed her and pointed out, yet again, that the contractor admits most of the problems. All we need is for someone "technical" to adjudicate over whether he should change the nearly new inverter and whether there should be an RCD or not.
Mind you she also tells me that there is not much that they can actually do about our problem other than encourage us and the contractor to sort it out.! The contractor, I must admit, does not seem overly worried about us contacting his trade body. Perhaps he has been here before?

GMJ

· #7,922 · 2 mo ago

Morning

We are off to Bridgend this morning to the MIL's nursing home to meet with a chap from the DWP. He needs to assess the MiL so that Mrs GMJ can become and Appointee for her benefits. As it stands the nursing home can't get paid as the MiL is unable to set up the DD needed due to her mental capacity therefore the DWP need to allow my wife to receive the MiL's pension so that we can then pay the fees. We have set up a separate bank account for this.

Also it appears that when the MiL went into her first nursing home a couple of years ago my wife's brother (who very begrudgingly organised it as Mrs GMJ was ill at the time) didn't apply for her Pension Credit so she's been dipping out on 40 quid a week for well over 2 years! So we'll need to sort that out too.

All of this could have been avoided if the MiL had taken out a Lasting Power of Attorney out when she was of sound mind. Myself and my wife have these in place for us, just in case.

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JanHank

· #7,923 · 2 mo ago

I`m not doing a lot just lately, food is mostly cooked for me I`m just the gravy maker or potato peeler, Heike is head chief.
Jürgen has removed the bird table from the back garden because birds haven`t used it for 3 years.
Yesterday they moved a pallet full of house bricks that have been trying to fall over for ages, they now look like a low wall at the side of the garden.
Today they intend removing the old green carpet outside the patio door cleaning the worms off the stones and laying the new carpet if the fixing pins arrive early enough. I`m wondering how many worms we will find under there.
US girls are going food shopping while Jürgen goes to OBI to find a bolt that can be fixed to my sliding door at the front, to be used only when I go away.
They are both enjoying planning the new rooms, I can remember the fun Hans and I had planning this house, they are having the same enjoyment even down to what goes on the floor, walls and the furniture needed. Tomorrow the builder is coming, at our request, because the plan has been altered for the first time 😁 probably won`t be the last.

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patp

· #7,924 · 2 mo ago

We have lasting powers of attorney in place for both our finances and for health matters. We were just sorting one out for my mother when she want down with her final illness. Before that I had been to the bank with her and opened a joint bank account with her. It was set up so that either could use it and proved very useful as an interim measure and I would recommend it if a relative is reluctant, or unable, to go down the full POA route.

I am going to try the new bus route into Norwich today. Use it or lose it and all that

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jiwawa

· #7,925 · 2 mo ago

I've moved over to Wassenaar, picking up diesel. 1.749€/l - expensive cos it was Shell but only got 20l as I was there to pick up GPL, 83.9¢/l. The cashier was very chatty; she n hubby used to have a MH. He'd park in the middle of nowhere n she could never sleep for anxiety! Weather has changed 😔

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GMJ

· #7,926 · 2 mo ago

patp said:
We have lasting powers of attorney in place for both our finances and for health matters. We were just sorting one out for my mother when she want down with her final illness. Before that I had been to the bank with her and opened a joint bank account with her. It was set up so that either could use it and proved very useful as an interim measure and I would recommend it if a relative is reluctant, or unable, to go down the full POA route.

I am going to try the new bus route into Norwich today. Use it or lose it and all that

It's a bloody nightmare tb h. I'm glad we have them although Mrs GMJ's dad will not entertain the idea at all...no surprise there as his default answer to everything is NO. He should join the DUP...

The MiL's old nursing home wont pay the money they owe the MiL back to my wife, so they will only pay it back to the MiL's account. We can't get access to the MiL's account unless we get a Deputyship from the Court of Protection which could cost £000's and take up to a year....which isn't going to happen! We can't even get an Emergency Interim Order from the Court unless we make a full application!!

The DWP chap today was superb tbf. He has now set up Mrs GMJ as an Appointee so her mothers pension can get paid into the new account we have set up, so we can pay her fees going forward.

The Local Authority Finance bloke has been excellent as well. He is more than happy for the LA to pay the fees until we can get sorted. Even then he wont be chasing for any owing's until we can get access to the MiL's dosh (presumably when she dies).

My advice for anyone reading this: GET YOUR LPA'S SET UP NOW WHILE YOU CAN. It'll save your loved ones loads of grief!

It's easy to do yourself and not too expensive either and will save loads of ££ in the long run.

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raynipper

· #7,927 · 2 mo ago

No G, it will be a great learning curve for them, especially dealing with French beaurocracy. He he snigger.

Ray.

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JanHank

· #7,928 · 2 mo ago (Edited)

You have just reminded me that I have to go to the bank which is not around the corner, to have Hans taken off the account completely so that I can give Heike authority to deal with the bank if I go even barmier than I am already. Here it is called Vollmacht, we tried to do it last year, but either start a new account in my name or take the certificate of inheritance to the bank so we will do that next week.

GMJ

· #7,929 · 2 mo ago

Morning

Nothing planned for today. If it doesn't rain I'll try and get in the garden for an hour or so this morning then I'll watch some rugby on the telly this afternoon I think.

JanHank

· #7,930 · 2 mo ago

If the forecast is to be believed nothing that takes me outside other than Motleys walk and that will be short.

The chap who is doing the garage conversion is coming this morning to see the second idea, which is an improvement on the first, it should be because my two have been planning and drawing it all week

My plan took me about an hour.

GMJ

· #7,931 · 2 mo ago

Just looked and it'll be rain here too so that's that plan scuppered!

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raynipper

· #7,932 · 2 mo ago

Day 28 of waiting for the nurse to come in and clean and change dressings. Kinda dictates your day.

Ray.

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patp

· #7,933 · 2 mo ago

Did the bus trip yesterday and all was fine. It gets back to the village after 6pm though, which is past my curfew

Will be ok in an emergency I suppose.

Nothing much on today. I might, if the rain holds off, get out to weed the driveway that our neighbours can see. They asked if they could cut down a couple of the ornamental grasses that grow there. I said they could cut down the ones on their side of the fence but to leave ours alone. Yes they have gone brown while the new shoots are generated but I can deal with that once they start to really shoot up. Cheeky b's have cut down a couple of mine. This is the second time they have done something like this. They have a very arrogant. Honestly just because he is a professional gardener!

JanHank

· #7,934 · 2 mo ago

Time they were told what they have bought and what you have kept me thinks Pat.

patp

· #7,935 · 2 mo ago

Believe me, Jan, I would like to do that. Trouble is that we bump into them all the time when we go down our driveway. They are always out in the garden. I wish now that we had erected high fences on all three sides. He has now planted a rose hedge along the boundary that he is messing with now. It should screen our driveway border from his sight. Cheeky buggers asked us to contribute to the cost of the roses!

JanHank

· #7,936 · 2 mo ago

When are you moving nearer to your daughter 🤔

raynipper

· #7,937 · 2 mo ago

Don't you just feel like moving into a 'serviced' flat at times Pat?

Ray.

patp

· #7,938 · 2 mo ago

As soon as we have finished this build Jan!

Ray, it seems ever more attractive to do just that. There are some near our daughter (but not too near!) but having been without close neighbours for most of our married life it would be quite an adjustment. I am a bit of a recluse really. I have given Chris the choice to stay or go and he has chosen to go so we will be going somewhere near that great big country park so that I don't feel hemmed in

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raynipper

· #7,939 · 2 mo ago

Yes it's always a juggle Pat. We love our house and location with no immediate neighbours to bother about (just one we can manage) and parking for a dozen vehicles.
But as time goes on and downsizing is always an inevitable due to upkeep, I frequently broach the subject. But the only thing my wife would change is go back to the family in UK.
Daft really as apart from her two just as old sisters, one son in Turkey and the other about to move to Spain. The attraction to UK is waning fast.

I really do not want to go back to UK but I can't get my wife galvanised to consider a move in France.

Ray.

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jiwawa

· #7,940 · 2 mo ago

raynipper said:
Day 28 of waiting for the nurse to come in and clean and change dressings. Kinda dictates your day.

Ray.

What did the Dr say the other day when he saw the wounds?

patp said:
As soon as we have finished this build Jan!

I just can't comprehend the thought of you moving after all the pain of the build Pat! Or was that always the plan?

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